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Notes From The Awareness: 198

Our primary focus often reveals that which scares us.

Please discuss. How does this play out in life?

I’ll start us out. We all have a main focus—career, children, a partner, finances, spirituality/religion. There’s something that consumes much of our attention, that can disturb is deeply if it isn’t going well. It’s both our fondest dream and our potential worst nightmare.

We focus on an aspect of life because we need it to feel safe, validated, worthy. We may be career-driven because we fear not being successful or worthy, in our eyes and in the eyes of others. The strong desire for financial abundance may arise from a fear of lack. The wish for a solid romantic partnership may reflect a fear of not being lovable or loved.

Today’s message reminds me of the folly of being compelled by fear. If something calls out to me cause I’m afraid of its absence, having it will never satisfy me. I will always be frightened that it could be taken away. When my primary life focus is based on what I love versus what I fear—a seemingly subtle distinction, but an important one—I am inspired by happiness rather than driven by dread. I’m more likely to enjoy my chosen life if I’m not twitchily waiting for it to evaporate. Love is my best and healthiest motivator.

How about you? Do your goals and primary focus arise from fear, love, or both?